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Jewish Traditions, A Chicken Sandwich, & Your Wedding.

I love Mondays.  My weekends typically consist of a a wedding on Saturday, church on Sunday and rest on Monday.  Mondays are our sabbath.  They are a “day of rest”.  I don’t do E-mail, phone calls, or editing.  It’s a day to enjoy the wife, the kids, and the life I have been blessed with.

One of my favorite places to eat is also big on taking a day off.  I know this has happened to you.  You’re hungry, you know what you want, you pull into the drive through giddy that the line is not long and then you realize… It’s Sunday.  Chick-Fil-A is closed.  A restaurant closed on Sunday.  The busiest out to eat day of the week and they are closed.  It’s basically like me saying I’m a wedding photographer who does not shoot Saturday weddings.  Chick-Fil-A is so convinced that people need a day of rest that they are willing to lose hundreds of millions of dollars a year for it.  I figure I can skip a few Monday voicemails. Right?

It has not always been like this for our house but back in 2004 I heard a talk by a guy named Rob Bell.  He talked about just how important rhythm and rest were to our bodies.  He talked of the importance of slowing down. The idea resonated with us and we were hooked.  At first taking a day off was hard.  I really do love my job so editing, learning, and shooting are never things I dread.  Taking a break is not always easy.  You have to “plan” for a day of nothing. (Example: I wrote this post on Thursday.)  Little by little though I have been able to “turn off” the part of my brain that likes to work and create.

Our kids LOVE Sabbath.  It’s a day when they know Danielle and I are both fully present.  They know that we are theirs and phone calls or Facebook won’t pull us away.  We are completely emerged in them and we play harder that day than any other day of the week.  It’s how I refill my creativity so that I can pour all of it out the following week.

List of things that are “Sabbathy”
Legos
Bubbles
Cake
Tea Parties
Video Games
Dates
Trampolines

Some “non-Sabbathy” things
E-mail
Laundry
Editing your amazing wedding images
Facebook
iPhones
Paying bills

Your list may look different.  You may not even have a list.  This whole post may seem like a crazy ridiculous stupid idea to you.  That’s OK, you don’t have to do this.  My advice though is try it for 3 months.  Set aside a day of rest.  No talking about work, no doing it, no E-mail.  Want to go really crazy?  Don’t think or plan about your wedding.  It may seem impossible, but you can go 24 hours without looking at a color swatch.  You’ll be amazed how refreshed and eager you are to jump back into the planning if you take little time off from it.  Like I said, you may think I’m crazy, but all I know is Mondays are my favorite day of the week. :)

Allen - August 23, 2010 - 10:40 am

Fantastic post. This definitely rings true with me on the weekends. Mental rest is more important than physical rest. Our bodies know how to rest very easily, but our minds have a tough time.

Lydia Covey, Harpist - August 23, 2010 - 10:59 am

What a great post, so very very true. Our modern culture does not know how to truly rest with the ever present media, its nearly impossible to escape it. But it’s so very necessary to take a break and relish in the important things of life. And it’s wonderful to hear that bubbles and legos are important to you. You are obviously a wonderful dad :D
Thank you for the Monday reminder (and yes, I agree that this applies to wedding planning too. Take a break for your fiance, the person you are getting ready to marry… and have some fun!)

Lissa Anglin - August 23, 2010 - 12:59 pm

Love it! So many of our Sundays are jam-packed with church, laundry and groceries that there is no rest at all. This is a great example of a true Sabbath.

Joel Heflin - August 24, 2010 - 12:19 am

Great post. I don’t think many people understand the importance of sabbath.

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Courtney & Jonathan | Elmwood Gardens Wedding Photography

Courtney & Jonathan had a great little wedding at Elmwood Gardens.  I gave a sneak peek a few days ago but here are a few more of my favorite images.

They had a fantastic First Look.  (Jonathan teared up a bit.)

Is she smiling because she is getting married to the man of her dreams or because the minister is using an iPad?
Yes.


Lydia Covey was there with harp in hand plucking, playing, and performing perfectly.
Book her: 903-261-3097 | Weblydiaharpist@gmail.com

Designs by D’Anne made  yet another great looking awesome tasting wedding cake.

Debbie Heflin - August 20, 2010 - 4:55 pm

These are so great, Alex! Love them all!

Lydia Covey, Harpist - August 21, 2010 - 10:30 am

It was great to work with you at this wedding! Thanks for including me ;)

Get Married With Something Cool In Your Hair

I’ll start this post with the obvious disclaimer that I am a guy.  That entitles me to ignorance on certain topics such as, when wearing white shoes is taboo, not knowing what the Kardashians ar up to, and being unclear on fork etiquette.  Having said that, I LOVE it when girls put fancy cool things in their hair at weddings.  I don’t know what any of these are called, but I know they are fun to photograph and make you look cooler than the average bride.  Here are some of my favorites from past brides.

But wait, you say.  Where can one find such plumy hair goodness?  I’m sure you already have this site bookmarked but if not may I introduce you to Etsy.
(Get ready to lose 2 hours of your day.)  Here are just a few of the fancy hair clip dealy-boppers they offer.  Have fun ladies.

Luke is 3

No wedding goodness today, just a quick shot of Luke and his cake.  He’s turning 3 and it’s time for the party.
(Danielle knocked this one out of the park.)
I’m off to eat cake.

Kim Adams - August 18, 2010 - 10:09 am

He is ADORABLE and that cake is ROCKIN’!!!

Courtney & Jonathan Sneak Peek for the MOTG :)

Mother’s of the groom always get shafted.  The mother of the bride gets the attention.  Fathers of the brides get movies made about them. But giving your son away is no easy chore.  Today’s post is dedicated to Debbie.  She is Jonathan’s mom and is always leaving me some serious comment love on my site and Facebook.  Here are two quick images form this weekend that jumped out at me while I was importing.  Enjoy.

Much much more coming later this week.  Happy Monday everyone.

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Debbie Heflin - August 16, 2010 - 3:07 pm

Oh, Alex!! Thank you so much!! I love these! You’re wonderful!

Elizabeth Edmondson - August 16, 2010 - 3:40 pm

Debbie, That is a beautiful thought and so true. I’m sorry I didn’t visit more with you at the wedding but I am glad I got to meet you at the shower. We are so glad to have Jonathan in the family. Courtney’s Granddad & Nonnie are really wanting to meet him. Lovely wedding. Elizabeth Edmondson Courtney’s Grandma Liz.

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